My ex is leaving, shes moving to france, its been a while since we talked to each other, however I had always kept good memories bout our relationship and her personality.
Yesterday she wanted to see me, so we could say goodbye to each other, which I agreed.
What I found was someone who was lost, someone who looked like the person i fell for, but she wasnt there anymore.
Shes 19, and she is dating a 41 year old who is getting divorced and has 3 children.
I feel let down, desapointed, weird, a bit broken hearted.
I know must of you dislike me, however I know there is people in here that must have a mature point of view, which I´ll appreciate.
Thanks for reading
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I think your feelings are normal. It was just a shock, that's all. You will probably feel a little bit better in a few days of rest, sun if you can get it, exercise, and good food (no alcohol - it makes things worse).
If you feel she is making a mistake, why not tell her. Then, at least you won't have any regrets in that respect.
It was nice of her to say goodbye, in any case.
Good luck.
If you feel she is making a mistake, why not tell her. Then, at least you won't have any regrets in that respect.
It was nice of her to say goodbye, in any case.
Good luck.
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]Donna13 wrote: [/QUOTENAME]I think your feelings are normal. It was just a shock, that's all. You will probably feel a little bit better in a few days of rest, sun if you can get it, exercise, and good food (no alcohol - it makes things worse).
If you feel she is making a mistake, why not tell her. Then, at least you won't have any regrets in that respect.
It was nice of her to say goodbye, in any case.
Good luck.[/QUOTE]
Thanks donna13, I did ask her to please think hard on what shes doing.
Food might be a problem since i have lost my appetite completly, and alcohol is just out of the question, i dont drink.
Thanks for ur kind words
If you feel she is making a mistake, why not tell her. Then, at least you won't have any regrets in that respect.
It was nice of her to say goodbye, in any case.
Good luck.[/QUOTE]
Thanks donna13, I did ask her to please think hard on what shes doing.
Food might be a problem since i have lost my appetite completly, and alcohol is just out of the question, i dont drink.
Thanks for ur kind words
those girls who like to look for problems when they don't have any ;)
you can find them at any corner.
i know your feelings, just look her straight in her eyes if you can and tell her what you think.
And just go ahead in your life, new people will walk by...
:)
by the way...why should i hate you?!?! :D
ciao!
you can find them at any corner.
i know your feelings, just look her straight in her eyes if you can and tell her what you think.
And just go ahead in your life, new people will walk by...
:)
by the way...why should i hate you?!?! :D
ciao!
Get yourself together Adolfo, you'll find a better one!!!
And if I may express my own opinion, about this:
"Shes 19, and she is dating a 41 year old who is getting divorced and has 3 children"
GOLD DIGGER
And if I may express my own opinion, about this:
"Shes 19, and she is dating a 41 year old who is getting divorced and has 3 children"
GOLD DIGGER
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]Neinbull wrote: [/QUOTENAME]Get yourself together Adolfo, you'll find a better one!!!
And if I may express my own opinion, about this:
"Shes 19, and she is dating a 41 year old who is getting divorced and has 3 children"
GOLD DIGGER[/QUOTE]
shes acctually quite welthy, she has got money coming out of her ears, the guy is a history teacher, her ex-history teacher...
And if I may express my own opinion, about this:
"Shes 19, and she is dating a 41 year old who is getting divorced and has 3 children"
GOLD DIGGER[/QUOTE]
shes acctually quite welthy, she has got money coming out of her ears, the guy is a history teacher, her ex-history teacher...
Girls...
You rock on a find a better one!!!
You rock on a find a better one!!!
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]Adolfo wrote: [/QUOTENAME]
Shes 19, and she is dating a 41 year old who is getting divorced and has 3 children.
[/QUOTE]
Are you surprised? They tell us about what is electricity in the schools instead of lessons "Who are the girls?".
Old bastard Serry came through that shit and he knows what he says. I've bought my famous black BMW and things became better. Now I'm gonna buy Porsche Cayenne. I've no idea how it helps, but it helps.
Shes 19, and she is dating a 41 year old who is getting divorced and has 3 children.
[/QUOTE]
Are you surprised? They tell us about what is electricity in the schools instead of lessons "Who are the girls?".
Old bastard Serry came through that shit and he knows what he says. I've bought my famous black BMW and things became better. Now I'm gonna buy Porsche Cayenne. I've no idea how it helps, but it helps.
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]Adolfo wrote: [/QUOTENAME]
Shes 19, and she is dating a 41 year old who is getting divorced and has 3 children.[/QUOTE]
Yes, but I also have access to the Archives. She's better off with me.
Shes 19, and she is dating a 41 year old who is getting divorced and has 3 children.[/QUOTE]
Yes, but I also have access to the Archives. She's better off with me.
I am sorry to hear about this, Adolfo. But she obviously has some issues, most likely dealing with self esteem and what not. The same thing happened to a good friend of mine from high school. He had a major crush on me, but I didn't feel anything but friendship for him. He totally lost it, when super-Christian and moved to Canada to marry a woman who is 35 (He was 23 at the time) who had three kids from a previous marriage. Not too long ago I heard he was getting divorced, and I got in contact with him just to tell him I was sorry and was here for him if he needed to talk. He responded back that he was going to come down to his parents house and that we should get together for coffee...or dinner...or something and told me 6 times (count them!) in the e-mail that he loved me. I responded back that I wasn't going to be able to make it down that weekend, that we could go out and have coffee some time as friends, but friends is all we would ever be. I never heard anything back after that, but I heard from his mother that he went back to this woman. I feel horrible for him, but he's obviously got issues with all of this stuff and can't accept the reality.
Your ex is in the same boat...she's got herself thinking that this is going to solve all of her problems. You clearly know it isn't, but you can't force her to confront her demons. She needs to do that on her own. As hard as it is, you need to let her go and let her make her own mistakes. That is all you can do at this point. You will be fine in a couple of days. Good luck!
Your ex is in the same boat...she's got herself thinking that this is going to solve all of her problems. You clearly know it isn't, but you can't force her to confront her demons. She needs to do that on her own. As hard as it is, you need to let her go and let her make her own mistakes. That is all you can do at this point. You will be fine in a couple of days. Good luck!
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]HistoryGirl wrote: [/QUOTENAME]I am sorry to hear about this, Adolfo. But she obviously has some issues, most likely dealing with self esteem and what not. The same thing happened to a good friend of mine from high school. He had a major crush on me, but I didn't feel anything but friendship for him. He totally lost it, when super-Christian and moved to Canada to marry a woman who is 35 (He was 23 at the time) who had three kids from a previous marriage. Not too long ago I heard he was getting divorced, and I got in contact with him just to tell him I was sorry and was here for him if he needed to talk. He responded back that he was going to come down to his parents house and that we should get together for coffee...or dinner...or something and told me 6 times (count them!) in the e-mail that he loved me. I responded back that I wasn't going to be able to make it down that weekend, that we could go out and have coffee some time as friends, but friends is all we would ever be. I never heard anything back after that, but I heard from his mother that he went back to this woman. I feel horrible for him, but he's obviously got issues with all of this stuff and can't accept the reality.
Your ex is in the same boat...she's got herself thinking that this is going to solve all of her problems. You clearly know it isn't, but you can't force her to confront her demons. She needs to do that on her own. As hard as it is, you need to let her go and let her make her own mistakes. That is all you can do at this point. You will be fine in a couple of days. Good luck![/QUOTE]
thank you so very much, ur absolutley right, she has got to learn from her mistakes, and I most learn i cannot solve everybody´s lives
thank you
Your ex is in the same boat...she's got herself thinking that this is going to solve all of her problems. You clearly know it isn't, but you can't force her to confront her demons. She needs to do that on her own. As hard as it is, you need to let her go and let her make her own mistakes. That is all you can do at this point. You will be fine in a couple of days. Good luck![/QUOTE]
thank you so very much, ur absolutley right, she has got to learn from her mistakes, and I most learn i cannot solve everybody´s lives
thank you
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]Adolfo wrote: [/QUOTENAME]My ex is leaving, shes moving to france, its been a while since we talked to each other, however I had always kept good memories bout our relationship and her personality.
Yesterday she wanted to see me, so we could say goodbye to each other, which I agreed.
What I found was someone who was lost, someone who looked like the person i fell for, but she wasnt there anymore.
Shes 19, and she is dating a 41 year old who is getting divorced and has 3 children.
I feel let down, desapointed, weird, a bit broken hearted.
I know must of you dislike me, however I know there is people in here that must have a mature point of view, which I´ll appreciate.
Thanks for reading[/QUOTE]
I have a 19 year old friend and he is dating a 43 year old man.
I wouldn't call it lost. Sometimes people like older people. I hear it all the time in fact.
Yesterday she wanted to see me, so we could say goodbye to each other, which I agreed.
What I found was someone who was lost, someone who looked like the person i fell for, but she wasnt there anymore.
Shes 19, and she is dating a 41 year old who is getting divorced and has 3 children.
I feel let down, desapointed, weird, a bit broken hearted.
I know must of you dislike me, however I know there is people in here that must have a mature point of view, which I´ll appreciate.
Thanks for reading[/QUOTE]
I have a 19 year old friend and he is dating a 43 year old man.
I wouldn't call it lost. Sometimes people like older people. I hear it all the time in fact.
I think the older spouse thing is gross on principle, but fuck it. If I could marry Elizabeth Hurley, I would.
I just don't think you can call someone who is in love with someone much older, messed up, in any way. I just think someone's still in love.
I mean, it's natural of people being attracted to people of different ages. If I was single and Samantha Fox wasn't a lesbian, I'd date her. I'm physically attracted to her, and I'm 21 now, and she was 21, when I was born!
I mean, it's natural of people being attracted to people of different ages. If I was single and Samantha Fox wasn't a lesbian, I'd date her. I'm physically attracted to her, and I'm 21 now, and she was 21, when I was born!
Yeah but she was kind of hot.
More often these days I'm seeing young folk go for old folk - and not the kind that age well. Old folk as in wrinkly sack of shit with an annoying laugh and terrible taste in music.
More often these days I'm seeing young folk go for old folk - and not the kind that age well. Old folk as in wrinkly sack of shit with an annoying laugh and terrible taste in music.