catqueen
soooo sleepy... night world :)
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catqueen
and yippee, tomorrow's friday!
catqueen
blah, horrible day in work :(
catqueen
oh blah... why did i promise to give my friend a lift out tonight? I'm meant to be going out, and i was to collect someone and drop them into town, and now i really don't feel like going, i want to curl up and cry in the corner :(
john bodega
Tell them all to fuck off
catqueen
[QUOTE] [b]Zebonka12 wrote:[/b]
Tell them all to fuck off[/QUOTE]
Wish i could -- i'm v gentle, naturally timid and quiet, to the extent that my friends have nicknamed me 'the doe.' I hate confrontation, i self-depreciate, i assume if there is a mistake that its probably my mistake. If something comes up and someone asks me if i did/didn't do something, i will say if i don't remember it, but will also say that that doesn't mean i *didn't* do it, and i apologise profusely, even for things i clearly am not totally responsible for. All my working life (all 6 years of it lol, the first few before that don't count) any issues that have come up have related to me not wanting to make decisions on my own, not wanting to cause trouble, not wanting to cause confrontation. Then i had a lot of personal changes lately (left a v strict religious group that i grew up in, but it was fairly intense, and affected pretty much my whole life). Since then, i got a lot more confident, and i'm trying to be careful not to swing from over-timid to a bulldozer.
And apparantly now, some ppl in work lodged a complaint that i'm inapproachable. I'm pretty sure it was a misunderstanding. And also, i've been told that i've gone from not taking enough responsibility to taking too much, and other ppl need to do their jobs too, so i need to step back. It was completely out of the blue, i had no idea there was a problem. And i'm in the middle of final assignments (i study part time), and up to my neck.
And i wish i could go feck off, but i cant :/ And its possible that they're right, although i know some parts of it are just misunderstanding. But still, i feel horrible. :(
Tell them all to fuck off[/QUOTE]
Wish i could -- i'm v gentle, naturally timid and quiet, to the extent that my friends have nicknamed me 'the doe.' I hate confrontation, i self-depreciate, i assume if there is a mistake that its probably my mistake. If something comes up and someone asks me if i did/didn't do something, i will say if i don't remember it, but will also say that that doesn't mean i *didn't* do it, and i apologise profusely, even for things i clearly am not totally responsible for. All my working life (all 6 years of it lol, the first few before that don't count) any issues that have come up have related to me not wanting to make decisions on my own, not wanting to cause trouble, not wanting to cause confrontation. Then i had a lot of personal changes lately (left a v strict religious group that i grew up in, but it was fairly intense, and affected pretty much my whole life). Since then, i got a lot more confident, and i'm trying to be careful not to swing from over-timid to a bulldozer.
And apparantly now, some ppl in work lodged a complaint that i'm inapproachable. I'm pretty sure it was a misunderstanding. And also, i've been told that i've gone from not taking enough responsibility to taking too much, and other ppl need to do their jobs too, so i need to step back. It was completely out of the blue, i had no idea there was a problem. And i'm in the middle of final assignments (i study part time), and up to my neck.
And i wish i could go feck off, but i cant :/ And its possible that they're right, although i know some parts of it are just misunderstanding. But still, i feel horrible. :(
MadTheSwine73
I'm so tired.
GratefulFan
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[b]catqueen wrote: [/b] Wish i could -- i'm v gentle, naturally timid and quiet, to the extent that my friends have nicknamed me 'the doe.' I hate confrontation, i self-depreciate, i assume if there is a mistake that its probably my mistake. If something comes up and someone asks me if i did/didn't do something, i will say if i don't remember it, but will also say that that doesn't mean i *didn't* do it, and i apologise profusely, even for things i clearly am not totally responsible for. All my working life (all 6 years of it lol, the first few before that don't count) any issues that have come up have related to me not wanting to make decisions on my own, not wanting to cause trouble, not wanting to cause confrontation. Then i had a lot of personal changes lately (left a v strict religious group that i grew up in, but it was fairly intense, and affected pretty much my whole life). Since then, i got a lot more confident, and i'm trying to be careful not to swing from over-timid to a bulldozer.
And apparantly now, some ppl in work lodged a complaint that i'm inapproachable. I'm pretty sure it was a misunderstanding. And also, i've been told that i've gone from not taking enough responsibility to taking too much, and other ppl need to do their jobs too, so i need to step back. It was completely out of the blue, i had no idea there was a problem. And i'm in the middle of final assignments (i study part time), and up to my neck.
And i wish i could go feck off, but i cant :/ And its possible that they're right, although i know some parts of it are just misunderstanding. But still, i feel horrible. :([/QUOTE]
Gentle is a very nice quality catqueen. I really hope you admire and appreciate that in yourself. The rest of it can be learned. Workplace issues are difficult for many women to navigate, regardless of temperment. Our first instinct is usually to go somewhere and cry. Which is fine, as long as you settle yourself and gather things intellectually before you attempt to address anything with anyone. There is always some opportunity in any crisis, even a mini crisis. This is a chance for you to demonstrate that you can take constructive criticism and be assertive and responsible in following up making sure expectations of you are being met. Most employers needs are pretty simple and easy enough to glean. Try to look at things through their eyes - what a well functioning workplace looks like to them - and then make every effort to show that you can be that. This sounds like a comparatively small thing that is probably much more initially hurtful for you than it is troublesome for them. I'm sure all will be well and you will have an opportunity to take this challenge and distinguish yourself. :)
[b]catqueen wrote: [/b] Wish i could -- i'm v gentle, naturally timid and quiet, to the extent that my friends have nicknamed me 'the doe.' I hate confrontation, i self-depreciate, i assume if there is a mistake that its probably my mistake. If something comes up and someone asks me if i did/didn't do something, i will say if i don't remember it, but will also say that that doesn't mean i *didn't* do it, and i apologise profusely, even for things i clearly am not totally responsible for. All my working life (all 6 years of it lol, the first few before that don't count) any issues that have come up have related to me not wanting to make decisions on my own, not wanting to cause trouble, not wanting to cause confrontation. Then i had a lot of personal changes lately (left a v strict religious group that i grew up in, but it was fairly intense, and affected pretty much my whole life). Since then, i got a lot more confident, and i'm trying to be careful not to swing from over-timid to a bulldozer.
And apparantly now, some ppl in work lodged a complaint that i'm inapproachable. I'm pretty sure it was a misunderstanding. And also, i've been told that i've gone from not taking enough responsibility to taking too much, and other ppl need to do their jobs too, so i need to step back. It was completely out of the blue, i had no idea there was a problem. And i'm in the middle of final assignments (i study part time), and up to my neck.
And i wish i could go feck off, but i cant :/ And its possible that they're right, although i know some parts of it are just misunderstanding. But still, i feel horrible. :([/QUOTE]
Gentle is a very nice quality catqueen. I really hope you admire and appreciate that in yourself. The rest of it can be learned. Workplace issues are difficult for many women to navigate, regardless of temperment. Our first instinct is usually to go somewhere and cry. Which is fine, as long as you settle yourself and gather things intellectually before you attempt to address anything with anyone. There is always some opportunity in any crisis, even a mini crisis. This is a chance for you to demonstrate that you can take constructive criticism and be assertive and responsible in following up making sure expectations of you are being met. Most employers needs are pretty simple and easy enough to glean. Try to look at things through their eyes - what a well functioning workplace looks like to them - and then make every effort to show that you can be that. This sounds like a comparatively small thing that is probably much more initially hurtful for you than it is troublesome for them. I'm sure all will be well and you will have an opportunity to take this challenge and distinguish yourself. :)
catqueen
[QUOTE] [b]GratefulFan wrote:[/b]
[QUOTE] [b]catqueen wrote: [/b] Wish i could -- i'm v gentle, naturally timid and quiet, to the extent that my friends have nicknamed me 'the doe.' I hate confrontation, i self-depreciate, i assume if there is a mistake that its probably my mistake. If something comes up and someone asks me if i did/didn't do something, i will say if i don't remember it, but will also say that that doesn't mean i *didn't* do it, and i apologise profusely, even for things i clearly am not totally responsible for. All my working life (all 6 years of it lol, the first few before that don't count) any issues that have come up have related to me not wanting to make decisions on my own, not wanting to cause trouble, not wanting to cause confrontation. Then i had a lot of personal changes lately (left a v strict religious group that i grew up in, but it was fairly intense, and affected pretty much my whole life). Since then, i got a lot more confident, and i'm trying to be careful not to swing from over-timid to a bulldozer. And apparantly now, some ppl in work lodged a complaint that i'm inapproachable. I'm pretty sure it was a misunderstanding. And also, i've been told that i've gone from not taking enough responsibility to taking too much, and other ppl need to do their jobs too, so i need to step back. It was completely out of the blue, i had no idea there was a problem. And i'm in the middle of final assignments (i study part time), and up to my neck. And i wish i could go feck off, but i cant :/ And its possible that they're right, although i know some parts of it are just misunderstanding. But still, i feel horrible. :([/QUOTE] Gentle is a very nice quality catqueen. I really hope you admire and appreciate that in yourself. The rest of it can be learned. Workplace issues are difficult for many women to navigate, regardless of temperment. Our first instinct is usually to go somewhere and cry. Which is fine, as long as you settle yourself and gather things intellectually before you attempt to address anything with anyone. There is always some opportunity in any crisis, even a mini crisis. This is a chance for you to demonstrate that you can take constructive criticism and be assertive and responsible in following up making sure expectations of you are being met. Most employers needs are pretty simple and easy enough to glean. Try to look at things through their eyes - what a well functioning workplace looks like to them - and then make every effort to show that you can be that. This sounds like a comparatively small thing that is probably much more initially hurtful for you than it is troublesome for them. I'm sure all will be well and you will have an opportunity to take this challenge and distinguish yourself. :)[/QUOTE]
Thanks :) I think most of it largely down to misunderstandings, but it still sucks. And even when she was telling me, my boss was like 'i hate to tell you this, cos one of these complaints is about something that i told you to do' but that basically i went from not doing enough to doing too much. My boss is great, i get along v well with her, but there were two of them there telling me, and the other isn't always the most sensitive. And i'm still not quite sure what exactly the problem was. :/ But i'm pretty sure it is easy enough to fix, just i hate being responsible for causing people stress.
[QUOTE] [b]catqueen wrote: [/b] Wish i could -- i'm v gentle, naturally timid and quiet, to the extent that my friends have nicknamed me 'the doe.' I hate confrontation, i self-depreciate, i assume if there is a mistake that its probably my mistake. If something comes up and someone asks me if i did/didn't do something, i will say if i don't remember it, but will also say that that doesn't mean i *didn't* do it, and i apologise profusely, even for things i clearly am not totally responsible for. All my working life (all 6 years of it lol, the first few before that don't count) any issues that have come up have related to me not wanting to make decisions on my own, not wanting to cause trouble, not wanting to cause confrontation. Then i had a lot of personal changes lately (left a v strict religious group that i grew up in, but it was fairly intense, and affected pretty much my whole life). Since then, i got a lot more confident, and i'm trying to be careful not to swing from over-timid to a bulldozer. And apparantly now, some ppl in work lodged a complaint that i'm inapproachable. I'm pretty sure it was a misunderstanding. And also, i've been told that i've gone from not taking enough responsibility to taking too much, and other ppl need to do their jobs too, so i need to step back. It was completely out of the blue, i had no idea there was a problem. And i'm in the middle of final assignments (i study part time), and up to my neck. And i wish i could go feck off, but i cant :/ And its possible that they're right, although i know some parts of it are just misunderstanding. But still, i feel horrible. :([/QUOTE] Gentle is a very nice quality catqueen. I really hope you admire and appreciate that in yourself. The rest of it can be learned. Workplace issues are difficult for many women to navigate, regardless of temperment. Our first instinct is usually to go somewhere and cry. Which is fine, as long as you settle yourself and gather things intellectually before you attempt to address anything with anyone. There is always some opportunity in any crisis, even a mini crisis. This is a chance for you to demonstrate that you can take constructive criticism and be assertive and responsible in following up making sure expectations of you are being met. Most employers needs are pretty simple and easy enough to glean. Try to look at things through their eyes - what a well functioning workplace looks like to them - and then make every effort to show that you can be that. This sounds like a comparatively small thing that is probably much more initially hurtful for you than it is troublesome for them. I'm sure all will be well and you will have an opportunity to take this challenge and distinguish yourself. :)[/QUOTE]
Thanks :) I think most of it largely down to misunderstandings, but it still sucks. And even when she was telling me, my boss was like 'i hate to tell you this, cos one of these complaints is about something that i told you to do' but that basically i went from not doing enough to doing too much. My boss is great, i get along v well with her, but there were two of them there telling me, and the other isn't always the most sensitive. And i'm still not quite sure what exactly the problem was. :/ But i'm pretty sure it is easy enough to fix, just i hate being responsible for causing people stress.
MadTheSwine73
I'm in the mood for some jelly donuts.
Mmm...
Mmm...
catqueen
if i don't go to sleep will that stop the monday?
catqueen
got rid of two more assignments today :D
MadTheSwine73
Yaay!
catqueen
thank goodness tomoro is friday!
Hangman_96
What's up everybody?