Personal relationships and music

[QUOTE] [b]Missreclusive wrote:[/b]
Rudely turning off someones music isn't good, then going off on a rant about Freddie being a fag.[/QUOTE]
He did that? Yeah, that's not very good. I'm not gay myself, but I would find it extremely difficult to go out with someone who doesn't accept gay marriage/rights; it's one of the few topics I actually feel strongly about. I'm just glad that, for youth today in America, there's an overwhelming amount of acceptance for homosexuality. Different taste in music is one thing, disliking Freddie because "he's a fag," is completely different. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be able to handle that.

More on topic, music taste is a small factor, but won't make or break anything for me. Finding someone who I actually like AND appreciates Queen as much as I do would be wonderful, but not completely necessary.

i used to think similar music taste was important, but i really don't think so anymore... you can learn to appreciate other types of music (both of you) and if not, you can learn to use headphones! I want someone i can go to gigs with, but most people enjoy more then one type of music, so its easy enough to find good live music. So i don't think it matters at all, although it's nice to have good music on in the car or whatever.

[QUOTE] [b]Missreclusive wrote:[/b]
And what I meant to say, and the post did not post...thank you for that! If I had found it I wouldn't have started this thread. Some of those contributors are hilarious.[/QUOTE]

You're unlikely to have found it. I knew it was there and it took me 10 minutes! :) As long as they're not too tired, I actually like when subjects come around again. Whether it's a reintroduction or an old thread bumped it!s interesting to see how thoughts have evolved. There was an old Lady Gaga thread bumped recently where I noted that I had went on a long ramble in defense of her talent. It made me smile because I just wouldn't do that today. Not because I feel particularly differently but because I don't think she needs the defense. Did she then? Don't know. But something either with me or with her has changed enough in a year that I just wouldn't yak that much about it now. The thread I pointed out to you has a reply from me that recalled instantly a particular state of mind at that time. My response today would likely be subtly different. So I think it's neat to have these staggered records of thoughts on similar subjects.

Double post. I'll use the opportunity to note that while musical taste may not be a particularly good reason to select or reject a partner, there is almost certainly something about it that is reflective of personality that nonetheless may be a predictor of longer term happiness with a partner. Opposites may attract sometimes but differences in personality can really grind down a relationship as you deal with day to day stuff. I read an interesting study about just that in the past. It concluded that most people choose partners based on shared values and goals and more superficial common interests because the intricacies of personality simply take much longer to glean. The study indictated that the single biggest predictor of marital satisfaction was similarity in personality on the standard 'Big Five' personality inventory. Just one study, and I'm sure other studies and personal experience may contradict it, but I did find it interesting.

It wouldn't cross my mind to make an issue of musical taste when it comes to relationships. On the other hand, musical taste might make an issue of itself - I wouldn't want to be the person living with me if she doesn't like my music, because I'm afraid she just wouldn't enjoy herself very much.

If I were dating someone whose music I didn't like, I'd just try my best to ignore it and gently nudge her in the direction of music we both enjoy.

[QUOTE] [b]GratefulFan wrote:[/b]
Double post. I'll use the opportunity to note that while musical taste may not be a particularly good reason to select or reject a partner, there is almost certainly something about it that is reflective of personality that nonetheless may be a predictor of longer term happiness with a partner. Opposites may attract sometimes but differences in personality can really grind down a relationship as you deal with day to day stuff. I read an interesting study about just that in the past. It concluded that most people choose partners based on shared values and goals and more superficial common interests because the intricacies of personality simply take much longer to glean. The study indictated that the single biggest predictor of marital satisfaction was similarity in personality on the standard 'Big Five' personality inventory. Just one study, and I'm sure other studies and personal experience may contradict it, but I did find it interesting. [/QUOTE]

I did this entire reply and it disappeared! Trying again. Yes, I agree with that study from personal experience. Had a love and he and I were different in many ways yet, our personalities were very similar. We would go places together and people always smiled and took notice. We talked about it and it wasn't because we were overt with being a couple. We shared the same humor and music. Interesting note, he looked so much like FM, people at his work would say to him "Dude, you look like Freddie friggin Mercury, can you sing??". He was same height and build too. He would belt out LOML to me and we would both laugh, this guy couldnt sing but enjoyed singing and it was so charming. Welp, cant have it all can ya? So much for that.

Music feeds and affects your emotions and soul. If you share both humor and music its glorious. Of course I would date someone who had different tastes as long as he was respectful of mine. The one deal breaker for me is continual arguing. I refuse to argue with someone, its a waste of time.

See? would be nice to go see QE with a date who loved Queen. Instead, I'm taking kids along with.

Okay I just HAD to reply to this thread bc I was thinking about this the other day, and also I'd like to say this is my first post back on this board since 2005, when I was known around here as MercurieQueen (remember me, anyone?)
I have never and probably could never date someone who was not a Queen fan. In fact, my love of Queen is directly responsible for all but two of the relationships I've had in my adult life.
This is not shallow, it's personal preference. I've never felt as connected to a person as I have with those who share my love of Queen because I know they have a similar set of ideals, tastes and probably similar life experiences as myself. I also could not share such a huge part of my life and and interest with someone who could not appreciate the same thing, or who was only interested in it just because I wanted them to be.
It's like a "type". I've only ever dated musicians thru my entire dating life, as I am very musical myself. My 'type' is musicians who love Queen. My boyfriend of 5 1/2 years plays electric, acoustic & bass guitar, piano, keyboard, synth & makes digital music too, has long, wavy 1975-Deacy hair and is a huge Queen fan like me.
We met because I went to the Queen + PR show at The Meadowlands in New Jersey October 2005, and he went to the show in Philly in early 2006, and we were on the same blogring sharing pictures... started talking first about Queen, then about us, and BAM... love. :D
We just saw QE together in the beginning of June and it was pretty darn close to a spiritual experience for the two of us! haha
I can say though that my shortest relationship was when I was 19. Among other disqualifications, after about a month of dating, we were talking about our favorite guitarists and after I said Brian May, he said that Mr. May was "shit" compared to the guitarist for Blind Guardian... it was over about 2 weeks later.

Well hey! As the one who started this thread, I thank you for posting to it. Especially after being gone for so long. I would dearly love to be with someone who has love for Queen. If he didn't, there would be a void and some lonliness, this seems to be silly to some people. Would have been fun to see QE as a couple. I loved it and would definitely do it again if given the chance. I would see Q+AL too but only to see Roger and Brian play.