I just hope the fans can be open to a different culture and go in with an open mind. They have honest good intentions and want to tell the truth and really have been brave to put themselves out there.
I hate to keep texting but a lot of people don’t want to hear me about the true side of Freddie . The first time I ever saw Thor was on the Garden Lodge tapes with Jim Hutton, Freddie, Thor’s boyfriend they were all some young dudes lol. I was in total shock I couldn’t stop watching Freddie it was like I was watching someone else . Then it hit me this is him it’s really him how gorgeous could one human being possibly be and people want to deny that.Then I looked at his handsome company all gay men. He was comfortable being his spirited self around the guys I think they are the ones that only saw him as his true self. So there it is my two cents my opinion.
CHEVYMAN, it is good that you're writing these. You're bringing more insight and a different perspective to the topic. Because on other platforms, I always see Twilight kinda romanticism about Freddie, team Mary, team Jim LOL. I like Jim because he made Freddie feel secure in a real relationship. I acknowledge that even after they broke up, he still loved Mary probably above anybody else. But I don't like to romanticize it, and I hate to see comments about this relationship which heterosexualizes Freddie (love of his life kinda stuff or "I wish they had a child together" etc.). And when people like you talk about this stuff, they always say "shut up it is his privacy, his sexuality is not your concern" as if his relationship Mary was not his privacy. It should be talked, it should be acknowledged. He had hard times, he repressed his true self at first and once he came up, he couldn't live his life freely because of the press and homophobia. People should see that he was actually happy to be gay and he lived gay, he just didn't show off.
Like I said I get a person can’t control their heart I have been their myself the only peace I felt I knew it wouldn’t be likely to occur in that manner again. So I do get Mary’s feelings but the press didn’t help her any when they kept feeding the monster. It kept her sick and her hopes up and then Freddie got AIDS she had to face reality. But not for long she inherited everything the good ole press feeds the monster and calls her his widow. Then they create this fantasy film that feeds her monster even more that puts her on a pedal stool as the love as his life again. It’s really not all her fault she just fell in love with a gay man and lost herself in the fantasy.She has lived a lonely life and people making money of lies they write in books off her and Freddie’s name so sad.
All that story about Mary and Freddie was made with the help of the band's management and of course the media. And the film followed that line.
I know there are various theories and stories about her but I think about her like this. I think she knew from the beginning her role she could play in Freddie's life, she accepted it and eventually got a big part of his property and protected it in her own way. I think Jim figured it out, in his book he described her in that way, as a Freddie's employee or something and close friend. She may have seen Jim as some threat to the property she was to inherit and for her public role rather than as a rival for Freddie's love and she wanted to keep Jim out of the house because of that.
I don’t look at it all romantically and I think she was practical in all that situation. She worked for Freddie, she worked for band also. It doesn't have to mean she was in love with Freddie all the time. She did what she was paid to do and probably loved him as a friend, and he loved her just as a friend. Sometimes things are simple even though we think they are complicated. If he wanted Mary to be his wife, he would marry her, if he wanted to have children with her, he would have. But he didn't want it. No one couldn't force him to do so. These quotes were for the public and a kind of compromise. That is my opinion about it.
I wanted to add something but I have made error. Sorry.
Invisable Woman ,Thanks for your input Mary was very in love with Freddie she wanted him at all costs. She did her job as his beard which helped her live out her fantasy I think the whole situation was painful for her. Then Freddie settles with Jim in the house that in her fantasy was supposed to be for them when he stopped being gay. This didn’t happen in reality this is a normal response for a heart broken woman who is constantly around the man she is still in love with. Her life and his would have been easier if he had broken all ties like many gay men do when they move on.
I want to add most beards don’t experience this level of love and attachment for their men. It makes a huge difference in everything I think. He should’ve found someone not so emotional attached to him to fulfill this job so I believe he could’ve eliminated some of this conflict too.I don’t want create drama but her treatment of his friends that came to visit GL after his death was in question too. She was very cold and not friendly .
@CHEVYMAN Maybe. Sometimes I thought Freddie was some kind of obsession for her. But still, I don't think she was in love with him all the time. It would be good that she tell her version about Garden Lodge and everything that happened after she took over the house but I think that's will not happen.
Invisible Woman, She admitted he was her eternal love you don’t just stop loving someone you may be forced to go on with your life yes but that love doesn’t go away especially when you were in the position she was. I imagine she still loves him still even today and will never open up about their life or buisness dealings etc. It is a shame to me that she felt his close friends were such a bother to her they were nothing but niece to her from what I have read. Then she turns once he has passed I’m glad he had men he could talk with because being gay and boyfriends I have a feeling she wasn’t real simpathetic except when maybe when it came time to getting rid of them.
I don’t think Freddie was obsessed with her this will probably be my last post Mary gets plenty of attention as it is.He wasn’t obsessed with her he seemed to be obsessed with finding the right man lol! People we just have to call it how it is this isn’t a Cinderella story and Mary well she didn’t get her prince. She got stuck somewhere in the land of OZ and along with the tin man she’s waiting for a heart.I enjoyed the non dramatic conversations but I just feel like this place could turn team Mary and make no mistake I like them boys I really do.
I don’t hate Mary, but I don’t like her very much either. She was always with his side, she was supportive and helpful and I respect her for that. And I am definitely not a Team Mary material and I don’t think nobody here is :) I also agree that Freddie might’ve been little obsessed about Mary (not as obsessive love, more like being obsessed to be sure that she is happy and satisfied) because of his feelings of regret that was led by cheating. But I do remember what Mary said to John Reid, sth like "I won at the end" which is a solid proof that she lived in her fantasy. I don’t know what kind of person she was until end of the 80’s but she doesn’t look like a kind and a nice person after she started to think that "she was going to win". I don’t mean to offend anybody, just my opinion :)
@CHEVYMAN I didn't say that he was obsessed with her. I said that it sometime seems to me that she was obsessed with him. Or I thought I said that.
I thought that my English didn't get that bad. :D
Ok I’m sorry language barrier I get what your saying.
