[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]Zebonka12 wrote: [/QUOTENAME]I don't want her gone though :(
I suppose I'm getting bogged in the short term consequences, huh?
Hmmm. [/QUOTE]
You might not want her gone, but you need her gone. You need to see you WILL live without her... in fact, without her, you stand a better chance of living happy since she's only a reminder of what you want but cannot have.
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Yeah..
You're right. :(
It's hard to let go of. Despite all of this, we still had so many little plots and schemes, all these quirky things we were going to do. She was never in love with me but goodness we were close. I miss it.
Still....
well anyway. Thankyou. You bastards are right :( hehe.
You're right. :(
It's hard to let go of. Despite all of this, we still had so many little plots and schemes, all these quirky things we were going to do. She was never in love with me but goodness we were close. I miss it.
Still....
well anyway. Thankyou. You bastards are right :( hehe.
Don't tell her anything, just do what you can to avoid her. Don't call her, don't email her, don't text her. Nothing good can come out of you telling her that you need her out of your life for your own good. That will only piss her off. If you need her out of your life, just let that happen. Act as if she doesn't exist and soon you'll be ok. If she is the one for you, it will happen no matter what. She will either realize that she needs you or wants you in her life, or she won't care. Either way you'll know. The hard part though is if you disappear from her and then she calls you still wanting you around as a friend. That will be a very difficult situation for you to handle knowing that it hurts to see her with someone else. My advice to you if that does happen is to just apologize for not calling, say you've been busy, and ask her how she's been. Keep it short and nice. You'll do fine and I'd like to hope she is not out to hurt you or to keep you hanging around. If she is then avoid her like the plague.
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]Lisser wrote: [/QUOTENAME]The hard part though is if you disappear from her and then she calls you still wanting you around as a friend. That will be a very difficult situation for you to handle knowing that it hurts to see her with someone else. [/QUOTE]
... I've been putting myself through that for a year. Heh... I know it's pathetic compared to most peoples problems, but I don't cope well with stress. It's been a sucky time.
What I hate admitting (even to myself) is that it's partly my ego stopping me from moving along. I really feel like when it does happen, it's going to hurt me a lot more than it does her, and something about that just makes me feel stupid.
Like slamming a door on a roomful of assholes, and the door only going ".... clunk".
... I've been putting myself through that for a year. Heh... I know it's pathetic compared to most peoples problems, but I don't cope well with stress. It's been a sucky time.
What I hate admitting (even to myself) is that it's partly my ego stopping me from moving along. I really feel like when it does happen, it's going to hurt me a lot more than it does her, and something about that just makes me feel stupid.
Like slamming a door on a roomful of assholes, and the door only going ".... clunk".
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]Zebonka12 wrote: [/QUOTENAME][QUOTE][QUOTENAME]Lisser wrote: [/QUOTENAME]The hard part though is if you disappear from her and then she calls you still wanting you around as a friend. That will be a very difficult situation for you to handle knowing that it hurts to see her with someone else. [/QUOTE]
... I've been putting myself through that for a year. Heh... I know it's pathetic compared to most peoples problems, but I don't cope well with stress. It's been a sucky time.
What I hate admitting (even to myself) is that it's partly my ego stopping me from moving along. I really feel like when it does happen, it's going to hurt me a lot more than it does her, and something about that just makes me feel stupid.
Like slamming a door on a roomful of assholes, and the door only going ".... clunk".[/QUOTE]
Your problems and life issues are not pathetic! You have the same right as everyone else to ask for advice or opinions!!! It is gutwrenching to watch a person that you feel should in every way be with you but they are with someone else. The only thing I can say to that is that time heals all!!! It does!!! Do not feel stupid. Your feelings are very valid and real but for your own good and later on down the road, you should not voice them to her again, bc you already have right? That is all you can do.
Oh and slamming a door on a bunch of assholes and only hearing clunk is still enough for me! :)
... I've been putting myself through that for a year. Heh... I know it's pathetic compared to most peoples problems, but I don't cope well with stress. It's been a sucky time.
What I hate admitting (even to myself) is that it's partly my ego stopping me from moving along. I really feel like when it does happen, it's going to hurt me a lot more than it does her, and something about that just makes me feel stupid.
Like slamming a door on a roomful of assholes, and the door only going ".... clunk".[/QUOTE]
Your problems and life issues are not pathetic! You have the same right as everyone else to ask for advice or opinions!!! It is gutwrenching to watch a person that you feel should in every way be with you but they are with someone else. The only thing I can say to that is that time heals all!!! It does!!! Do not feel stupid. Your feelings are very valid and real but for your own good and later on down the road, you should not voice them to her again, bc you already have right? That is all you can do.
Oh and slamming a door on a bunch of assholes and only hearing clunk is still enough for me! :)
Maybe overall avoidance would just be the best thing (Lisser gives good advice). You don't want to destroy yourself over this or cause an uncomfortable scene.
And maybe I was being too harsh when I suggested this girl might not be considering what it is doing to you. I don't know her. I'm sure she is a very nice girl, or you wouldn't like her so much. (Sorry.)
Whatever you do, we're all behind you.
And maybe I was being too harsh when I suggested this girl might not be considering what it is doing to you. I don't know her. I'm sure she is a very nice girl, or you wouldn't like her so much. (Sorry.)
Whatever you do, we're all behind you.
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]Donna13 wrote: [/QUOTENAME]
I'm sure she is a very nice girl
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She is, she is... too nice, sometimes. Heh
Thankyou for listenin'!
I'm sure she is a very nice girl
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She is, she is... too nice, sometimes. Heh
Thankyou for listenin'!