Holy shit. I'm sorry, but that's wrong. Who was the one feeding him when he couldn't do it himself? That would be Phoebe. And Jim, and Joe.
I'm disgusted at how Mary treated them and honestly, Phoebe and Jim stayed classy when they could have exposed her more. I believe Jim couldn't get some of his belongings as well (a trunk I believe?)
Like I said, I think Freddie trusted her to do the right thing and she didn't. She waited around for the house to be hers, and felt exonerated because she was jilted. It's so gross. Phoebe deserved so much better, the man devoted his life to Freddie.
When Freddie died, he left his friends the equivalent of over a million pounds each (in today’s money). That was very generous and showed his love and appreciation of the three men. That was enough for them to arrange for movers to carry their personal items from the house and enough for them to arrange for temporary accommodations after Freddie died.
So, there was no financial burden. The death was expected. There was time to plan and prepare.
Of course, they must have all been very sad, and that made it difficult emotionally.
Like I said, grief is difficult. Sadness is not the only emotion that survivors go through.
Spot on, sweetandtenderhooligan.... that's exactly the way it looks to me.
Donna, I don't remember revenge being one of stages of grief.
Revenge is not a stage of grief and I’m not sure if I buy into the “stages of grief” theory anyway. It is a little bit too simple.
I’m just saying that grief is a combination of emotions, because a person has to adapt to a new reality and it is a shock to the system. Rather than crying all the time, and feeling complete despair, it feels better (a relief) to feel a different emotion for a while, such as anger or resentment or even paranoia. All these feelings help to distract from what the body cannot tolerate for long and that is deep sadness.
I know about grief, first hand.... what I don't buy is, becoming the total opposite of what Freddie thought he knew, Mary turned from a sweet, innocent caring person, into one driven by rage, because of what she felt Freddie denied her...she behaved like a woman scorned, who was out for revenge....she vowed to get what would have been hers, had Freddie married her...and, she succeeded...in the process, she also said a big F you, to Jim, a person who despised her for what he knew to be the truth about her and, whom she despised, for what he represented...it was gay men, who took Freddie from her, to begin with.
There, a plausible synopsis of what transpired, true or not, it is plausible...it's also my deep down, gut feeling.... which is almost, always right...
Grief doesn't cause s person to do what Mary did..... because, she wasn't grieving, she had already had everything all planned out...she started plotting her revenge the day Freddie told her he was bisexual....then, as he continued to not want to discuss marriage....
She was hurt, humiliated and angry. But, she showed him, didn't she?
Donna, you are ignoring the fact that Jim and Phoebe didn't even have access to their belongings, once security had been installed at Garden Lodge. Your remark on them knowing that Freddie had been terminally ill, thus them having time to arrange for some other place to stay is pretty disgusting. If you're taking care about someone close to you, the last thing you think about is moving from that person.
Funlovingcriminal: Phoebe stated in his first book that in those last couple of weeks after Freddie stopped medication they didn't know the weather, current events or anything about the outside world because they were so busy taking care of him and the house. He wanted business as usual, so they had to handle that AND caring for a terminally ill man. I'm sure it never occurred to them that Mary would swoop in and do what she did.
So no, Donna, they didn't have "time to prepare". They had other things to worry about.
Peter Freestone was an expert on the set of the movie. And Brian and Roger had final approval of everything. If it was true that Mary was mean and selfish, then that would have been written into the story. But the fact is that she was a nice person and a loyal and lifelong friend to Freddie.
I’m sure they had time to prepare before those final weeks. If they chose not to prepare, then that is understandable.
They were on a rotating schedule 24 hours a day in addition to doing their jobs, so maybe they didn't have time.
Mary was written as a warm, caring loving friend to Freddie, because she probably would have sued them if they had written the truth... besides, it really wasn't about Mary and Freddie's relationship, the movie was about Freddie and the band...the movie really didn't dwell on the Freddie/Mary relationship....that isn't the way they wanted it to go... that's for another time, perhaps.
The people who wrote the books afterwards, told the truth about Mary.
Oh, I believe they were exhausted emotionally and physically, tending to Freddie. They did everything they could to take care of him and keep things as normal as possible. They loved him.
But he was diagnosed in 1987, and they knew a certain upheaval would occur in their lives.
They must have thought from time to time, what will I do with myself, and where will I live.
We don’t know Mary’s side of the story. She didn’t write a tell-all book. Maybe hurtful things were said to her by Jim. Maybe she just wanted to make changes quickly in order to begin a healing process.
