what do guys like to do for the weekend? in a platonic way? holp holp!

Tell him you hesitated because you recently met your new boyfriend/girlfriend (whatever you prefer).Ask a good friend to play that role for a few hours and let him/her constantly sit/stand between you and your guest.

Ofcourse, you can also invite lifetimefanofqueen. I'm sure she is great company ;-)

Actually he isnt as bad as i expected, he's kinda nice.  :/  Which confuses the matter even more LOL.  I keep reminding myself of his creepy behaviour in fb and that he 'fell in love' after like one conversation lol.  Oh well, at least so far it hasnt been too awkward, altho never before have i had a conversation about politics at 8.45 am rofl.

Thanks for the update. I was thinking about you last night, wondering how it was going. :)

thanks grateful fan :D
today he went to a nearby city... collected him before college to drop him to train, and at 8.45 am he was talking abt economic crisis and politics :/  LOL  collected him in evening, went for something to eat, and he did not shut up.  And when i said somethign he would go hm yeah, and then change subject.  And i guess he has v few friends, he likes to be alone.. so there are a lot of red flags... now the great question is HOW do i find out for sure if he is still thinking he has a chance, cos i really dont want to lead him on... we could be good friends, but i dont think we could be anything more.  But how to bring that up :/  lol  Hes kind of acting like he thinks hes my bf, like idk, cant explain, but the way he is carrying himself, just feels like hes not being completely just friends, but  i cant go by just that... i guess ill just have to hope he says something that i can use to say look, ur a lovely guy, but im rly sorry,,, im not interested in more then friendship now.  :(  poor guy.  and i really hope he isnt on QZ LOL

Hope things are still going well enough. :)  Don't sweat the disparity in intentions until you have to.  Maybe you can let how you would like to be treated in a similar situation be your guide.  For me that would be not having somebody randomly blurt out that they don't like me 'that way' in the middle of a nice time I think I'm having (LOL), and if the time came that it would be necessary to clarify I would want to be dealt with warmly and respectfully but absolutely clearly.  So no qualifiers like "right now" or transparent excuses that avoid the fact that you simply don't feel the necessary chemistry.  Treat him like somebody with the intelligence and strength and class to accept a respectful romantic rejection until there is some reason to do otherwise.

Unrelated to this situation directly, I wanted to add that some of the best advice I ever got was to always go on at least two dates with someone before you decide there's an insufficient attraction.  It's amazing how different second dates can be.  A woman I work with just married the guy she went on a reluctant second date with 15 years ago now, after being given the same advice.

"written by a man of experience by the sounds of it"

Basically!  Only last time it was a comic book store - I got down to the second floor (one of these places that goes down, not up) and once she was busy perusing - I got the fuck out of there.

Zebonka12 wrote: "written by a man of experience by the sounds of it"

Basically!  Only last time it was a comic book store - I got down to the second floor (one of these places that goes down, not up) and once she was busy perusing - I got the fuck out of there.
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haha! i like your style :-D

My pc is dead :( 
but yes, i remained friendly, but only friendly, and dropped hints about being friends, etc, and when he brought it up, i said im really sorry, but it just wont work.  And actually he is a lovely guy... just not right for me, esp not right now.  I had a wonderful weekend, actually had a really great time together, but it wouldnt work to take it further.  And i agree with ur second date advice -- he even became goodlooking after  2 - 3 days, but i know that a relationship would not work.  But he is so extremely nice, polite and respectful that i was actually really sad to tell him no.  Five years ago he was EXACTLY what i was looking for, but im not the same person now.  Oh well, such is life, and hopefully we can still be friends, because he is a lovely lovely young man.