snifflese wrote:
Maybe you could both come to a truce and let bygones be bygones and just start over. The only thing I will dispute with you is that you feel no one has been critical of Adam on QOL and I have mentioned several times that I don't agree with that. There has not been anything much for the last year or so, but some long time posters made some couched homophobic remarks that left me scratching my head saying to myself,"Wasn't Freddie gay?" Fairy Dandy was the worst one, but I do feel there were inappropriate remarks made over the years. Just like here I don't think it is nice what Runner and Happy Star say referring to his transvestite image and calling him Lady.... To me those are veiled homophobic remarks, but on QOL, it was much more obvious.
I really do feel Adam was stigmatized for his "gayness" in the beginning. I think his trajectory would have been totally different if not for those unfortunate AMA's. He got hammered for his orientation and I am not sure others would have weathered it so well. It has certainly not been smooth sailing like it has been for our mutual buddy Sam Smith. I don't know why one gets a pass and the other doesn't. I guess Sam is less in your face, although some of his pics have been more Adamlike recently (more power to him!). I do believe some of the problems Adam has had have been a result of his sexuality, particularly early on. He has mentioned it more lately and I don't feel he is one to lie or make up stories. I think Caroline is right about that.
I think it would be very hard for her to let bygones be bygones. Especially when she cannot admit to being wrong, even when the truth is out there. If she admitted she was wrong, that would be a good place to start.
I have admitted I've been harsh, I can and I will admit to any shortcomings. I still get told to STFU, compared to Trump, that I should see a shrink, that I'm a trouble maker, a stalker and much more besides. Not once have the person behind that has ever said sorry. Maybe she thought by offering me tickets was some sort of olive branch. Her reasoning in offering was because she was sick of me never having seen the show. That's one of her biggest complaints about me. Even after I have explained why I couldn't go to Q+AL shows. I have bigger worries than to go to Q +AL concerts.
I know people have been critical about AL. I have been that way myself. Then again, I have been critical about Freddie and Queen about some things in their history. Sun City, Put Out The Fire, for example. I think the Pepsi advery Brian and Roger did with Britney, Pink and Beyonce was the worst of Q+.
I think what Freddie and AL went through, can't really be compared. What Freddie went through on his deathbed is worse than anything AL ever went through. It's not easy for anyone in the music business, right now I think it's tougher than it has been in years, because music is being streamed instead of physical copies. As much as I do stream ( and I am over my data to prove it ) I'd rather have something in my hands to play.
I have admitted that I like Sam Smith more than AL. That's a black mark against me in someone's eyes. Sam Smith's recent single didn't do all that well, and you couldn't find me running around blaming homophobia for it. Or any excuse in the book.
As for homophobia...I know what it can do. I've been through it, I know what it's about. Nothing said on QOL about AL was ever homophobic, even though there was plenty of claims about it. A person saying they don't like AL's vocals, is not homophobic. Nor is not liking how AL dresses, is not homophobic. Brian calls AL madam at times, I wonder if that is considered homophobic by Glamberts? I know of them some don't like it. Sweetcaroline has used the homophobia excuse way too often for far too long regarding AL. I can't help but wonder if she really knows what homophobia is.
AL seems to be very open about his sexuality these days. I'm sure that will help some people. But I know Sam Smith has helped people out too. I think there enough room for both of them in today's world. Good for them both for being so open.