ok so my friend is bipolar (like...severely) shes messed up in the head but at teh same time refuses to be happy. she believes her only way of happiness is to die or just somehow not exist. shes on all kinda of drugs both perscribed and not. she hangs out with bad people
ive told her all i could. i have not patronized her or put her down, lectured or fed into her stuff (makeing her feel better by telling her what she wants to hear) basically she wants to be miserable.
im tired of trying to help her if she doesnt want to listen or doestn want help. i know its easy to say 'its her choice let her fuck up' and such but i care bout her since shes one of my best friends.
what should i do/say?
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hmmmm... I think she may be suffering from depression... maybe she needs to see a doctor or a phycyatricst(sp?). But the best thing I guess you could really do is to just be there for support incase anything bad happens. If she doesn't accept it - oh well. You have done everything you could.
Can you talk to her parents? They might not realize the extent of her depression or drug use. It couldn't hurt to inform them. (or you can tell your parents if you think they'll talk to hers.)
Hey Rave, How much have read on Bi-Polar disorder or "manic depression"?
Is she always "low" and never "high"?
You should for sure bring to someone's attention that she is mixing drugs.
If she is a close friend, and this is really bothering you, you should read up as much as you can on it. They can be very difficult people.
Of course, this is only my opinion.
Is she always "low" and never "high"?
You should for sure bring to someone's attention that she is mixing drugs.
If she is a close friend, and this is really bothering you, you should read up as much as you can on it. They can be very difficult people.
Of course, this is only my opinion.
Emo.
it may be a sign of depression or something at home is bothering her. ask her whats wrong if there's something bothering her.
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]<font color=pink>Account Deleted wrote: [/QUOTENAME]Emo.[/QUOTE]
just cos they are depressed doesn't mean they are an Emo, Brian May suffered from depression and he aint an Emo is he?
just cos they are depressed doesn't mean they are an Emo, Brian May suffered from depression and he aint an Emo is he?
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]<font color=0099FF>Killer Queenie wrote: [/QUOTENAME][QUOTE][QUOTENAME]<font color=pink>Account Deleted wrote: [/QUOTENAME]Emo.[/QUOTE]
just cos they are depressed doesn't mean they are an Emo, Brian May suffered from depression and he aint an Emo is he?[/QUOTE]
Emo.
just cos they are depressed doesn't mean they are an Emo, Brian May suffered from depression and he aint an Emo is he?[/QUOTE]
Emo.
emu :)
You shouldn't do anything, sometimes it's not a good idea to force somebody change his/her/its views on the world. Maybe she's happy in her misery.
You shouldn't do anything, sometimes it's not a good idea to force somebody change his/her/its views on the world. Maybe she's happy in her misery.
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]Sonia Doris wrote: [/QUOTENAME]emu :)
You shouldn't do anything, sometimes it's not a good idea to force somebody change his/her/its views on the world. Maybe she's happy in her misery. [/QUOTE]
Who the fuck is happy being miserable?...
You shouldn't do anything, sometimes it's not a good idea to force somebody change his/her/its views on the world. Maybe she's happy in her misery. [/QUOTE]
Who the fuck is happy being miserable?...
It sounds like a cry for attention to me, and probably depression, if not true bipolar. You should definatly tell her parents (or yours so they can tell hers) about the drug use, because belive me she's doing more harm than good with the drugs if she truly is bipolar...my sister is bipolar and did drugs to try and "fix herself".
She'll be mad you told, but you need to reassure her that you are doing it out of concern for her, because you care for her.
But, a caveat is needed. In the end, whether or not she gets help is her decision. Even her parents forcing her to go to counseling or take medication or something won't do any good at all if she hasn't already made the decision to get help. She needs to know that you support her and care for her, but you can't force her to change. Only she can do that. If she chooses to remain miserable, in spite of everything else, you will have to wash your hands of it. I'm not saying you have to be mean or anything, but just give her space and accept that if she's living this way there isn't anything you can do about it.
Best of luck to you....be strong
She'll be mad you told, but you need to reassure her that you are doing it out of concern for her, because you care for her.
But, a caveat is needed. In the end, whether or not she gets help is her decision. Even her parents forcing her to go to counseling or take medication or something won't do any good at all if she hasn't already made the decision to get help. She needs to know that you support her and care for her, but you can't force her to change. Only she can do that. If she chooses to remain miserable, in spite of everything else, you will have to wash your hands of it. I'm not saying you have to be mean or anything, but just give her space and accept that if she's living this way there isn't anything you can do about it.
Best of luck to you....be strong
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]<font color=660066>Dorian<h6>pssht wrote: [/QUOTENAME][QUOTE][QUOTENAME]Sonia Doris wrote: [/QUOTENAME]emu :)
You shouldn't do anything, sometimes it's not a good idea to force somebody change his/her/its views on the world. Maybe she's happy in her misery. [/QUOTE]
Who the fuck is happy being miserable?...[/QUOTE]
Many people are. You'd be surprised.
You shouldn't do anything, sometimes it's not a good idea to force somebody change his/her/its views on the world. Maybe she's happy in her misery. [/QUOTE]
Who the fuck is happy being miserable?...[/QUOTE]
Many people are. You'd be surprised.
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]Lisser wrote: [/QUOTENAME][QUOTE][QUOTENAME]<font color=660066>Dorian<h6>pssht wrote: [/QUOTENAME][QUOTE][QUOTENAME]Sonia Doris wrote: [/QUOTENAME]emu :)
You shouldn't do anything, sometimes it's not a good idea to force somebody change his/her/its views on the world. Maybe she's happy in her misery. [/QUOTE]
Who the fuck is happy being miserable?...[/QUOTE]
Many people are. You'd be surprised.[/QUOTE]
I'll have to admit I'm one of them.
You shouldn't do anything, sometimes it's not a good idea to force somebody change his/her/its views on the world. Maybe she's happy in her misery. [/QUOTE]
Who the fuck is happy being miserable?...[/QUOTE]
Many people are. You'd be surprised.[/QUOTE]
I'll have to admit I'm one of them.
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]<font color="FF0066">DeadOnTime<h6>~<3~! wrote: [/QUOTENAME][QUOTE][QUOTENAME]Lisser wrote: [/QUOTENAME][QUOTE][QUOTENAME]<font color=660066>Dorian<h6>pssht wrote: [/QUOTENAME][QUOTE][QUOTENAME]Sonia Doris wrote: [/QUOTENAME]emu :)
You shouldn't do anything, sometimes it's not a good idea to force somebody change his/her/its views on the world. Maybe she's happy in her misery. [/QUOTE]
Who the fuck is happy being miserable?...[/QUOTE]
Many people are. You'd be surprised.[/QUOTE]
I'll have to admit I'm one of them.[/QUOTE]
Give happiness a chance...! :D
You shouldn't do anything, sometimes it's not a good idea to force somebody change his/her/its views on the world. Maybe she's happy in her misery. [/QUOTE]
Who the fuck is happy being miserable?...[/QUOTE]
Many people are. You'd be surprised.[/QUOTE]
I'll have to admit I'm one of them.[/QUOTE]
Give happiness a chance...! :D
You say she is one of your best friends and yet she is hanging around with "bad" people and doing drugs. People choose the group they want to be with. I think it is best for you to keep away from her while she is having such serious problems. This is self preservation.
However, if she has made statements about wanting to die, you should take that seriously enough to tell her parents. She might be planning suicide at this point.
It can't be good for your life to feel that level of responsibility for someone else's actions.
However, if she has made statements about wanting to die, you should take that seriously enough to tell her parents. She might be planning suicide at this point.
It can't be good for your life to feel that level of responsibility for someone else's actions.