arlene wrote:
I'm not suffering, Cobain's fatherless daughter is and will the rest of her life. And did you know that psychiatrists say that the NUMBER one person who suffers after a suicide, is any child..who then becomes ten times more likely to ALSO then suffer depression, blame them selves (for which they should NOT), and also become suicidal. What a terrible hand to deal his child.
You are assuming too much. How do you know the emotional/psychological stance of the fatherless Cobain daughter? Do you know her personally? This I highly doubt. May I also ask your reference to that stat? Here's one for you: Seventy percent of all statisics are made up on the spot.
She wasn't even two at the time her father commit suicide. Infants at this age are not suffering from influences of suicide. They are too young to comprehend the magnitude of such events. They have no concept of mature emotions. Though they can experience personal truama, they will not "suffer" from the truamas of others.
Being fatherless does not automatically make you messed up or doomed to their fate. Though his example is unfortunate, the outcome may not neccesarily be depression or devistation. Perhaps it taught to be an optimist. Look for the positive angle to everything, and let that elevate you to a better standing.
Moral outlook (including susceptibility to depression or suicide) is formed in your upbringing and your environment. When you only look at parental suicide (or whatever) as "monkey see, monkey do", then you are only looking at it the way you want to. It is supportive of your argument. Though genetic make-up is partially in play of one's personality, therapy/counseling or supplimental/chemical influence will alter with such aids.
Perhaps Miss Cobain is not so bad off as you make her to be. If she was properly taken care of, then she should grow to be a healthy, happy person.
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*WARNING: the following message is in no way meant to offend. It is an amiable question/comment that is not a personal attack or rebutal, but rather a curious inquiry*
I agree with you that the majority of rap (:P imho) holds immoral messages, I wonder if you are aware of a song by The Black Eyed Peas, "Where is the Love?". It is most definately not promoting violence or corrupt society. In fact, it is the exact opposite. The message is a good one. I think you'd like it, if you'd listen to it. By a stretch, it's like the rap version of "Is this the World We Created?". I am most definately not saying they are in the same leagues. "Where?" is more simple in my opinion. The essential message is the only connection I am making here. :)
