....about something....my friend asked if my boyfriend and i did anything yet.....and i wonder if its the right time to do it..
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The point is if your boyfriend wants to do it with you. If I was him, I wouldn't.
To do what?
Haha.. don't you watch Desperate Housewives? This just came up this week. Andrew's advice was: guys need sex, so if he's not getting it from you, he's getting it somewhere. hahaha
But anyway, no.. don't do anything at your age. If your guy is worth keeping, he'll understand that you want to wait. If he pressures you, dump the bastard. And as for your friends.. simply tell them it's none of their business. Keep it a mystery :)
And for heaven's sake, if you do lose the battle and do something.. be safe! Make him wear a condom. If not you could get some horrible disease, or worse.. a nasty little alien creature will grow inside of you until it pops out. Then it cries and shits and demands to be fed. And you're legally obligated to give up your life for 18 years to raise the thing. It's like prison, but with even less sleep.
But anyway, no.. don't do anything at your age. If your guy is worth keeping, he'll understand that you want to wait. If he pressures you, dump the bastard. And as for your friends.. simply tell them it's none of their business. Keep it a mystery :)
And for heaven's sake, if you do lose the battle and do something.. be safe! Make him wear a condom. If not you could get some horrible disease, or worse.. a nasty little alien creature will grow inside of you until it pops out. Then it cries and shits and demands to be fed. And you're legally obligated to give up your life for 18 years to raise the thing. It's like prison, but with even less sleep.
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]Bubbles the bunny wrote: [/QUOTENAME]a nasty little alien creature will grow inside of you until it pops out.[/QUOTE]
LMAO!!!!!
ALIENS!!!!!!!!!
:D :D :D
LMAO!!!!!
ALIENS!!!!!!!!!
:D :D :D
It's a bit too early, wouldn't you say??? At your age I would definitely say no! I am aware that there is an enormous amount of pressure... especially in The States... but if you feel ready... well... it's your life!!! Good luck - whatever you decide!!!:-)
OK...let's think about this here...you are 15 years old, according to your profile. First off, that's statutory rape because you aren't of the age of legal consent, so if either set of parents found out, you could get him arrested and put on a sexual offender list, even if it was consentual sex.
Second...YES! YOU ARE FAR TOO YOUNG to even be THINKING about this stuff. Nothing good can come of it at your age..only ill things. Even if you are lucky enough not to get pregnant or get an STD, do you honestly think that your boyfriend will stay with you forever? When he leaves (as is inevitable probably at this age) you will be hurt because you gave him something that you can never have back, and it was a sign of trust, that he will dash to pieces. So if the physical problems with this aren't enough to convince you not to do it, think about the emotional pain that will be involved if you do that and then he leaves.
Despite what popular culture likes to believe, sex is not a right of passage or something that should be given away for nothing. I'm not arguing that it needs to be relegated to the bonds of marriage, but both people need to be mature enough to understand the risks involved and, more importantly, to be able to deal with teh consequences of the actions, should they arise. No matter how mature you think you are, trust me, you aren't mature enough for this.
Sex should be an act of ultimate love and trust between two people, mature enough to understand the significance of the act; this significance explains why it hurts so bad when the relationship ends if sex has occured between the two people.
There is a belief out there, among people your age that everyone at your age is doing it...trust me, they aren't. It's just an illusion brought on by pop culture and the wishings of horny teenagers. Don't do it...not only is it not worth the pain and consequences that might result, but there are more important things that you should be worrying about. However, this doesn't mean that you should be worrying about what others think of you. They aren't thinking about you at all...they are too worried about what others think of them to think about others.
Second...YES! YOU ARE FAR TOO YOUNG to even be THINKING about this stuff. Nothing good can come of it at your age..only ill things. Even if you are lucky enough not to get pregnant or get an STD, do you honestly think that your boyfriend will stay with you forever? When he leaves (as is inevitable probably at this age) you will be hurt because you gave him something that you can never have back, and it was a sign of trust, that he will dash to pieces. So if the physical problems with this aren't enough to convince you not to do it, think about the emotional pain that will be involved if you do that and then he leaves.
Despite what popular culture likes to believe, sex is not a right of passage or something that should be given away for nothing. I'm not arguing that it needs to be relegated to the bonds of marriage, but both people need to be mature enough to understand the risks involved and, more importantly, to be able to deal with teh consequences of the actions, should they arise. No matter how mature you think you are, trust me, you aren't mature enough for this.
Sex should be an act of ultimate love and trust between two people, mature enough to understand the significance of the act; this significance explains why it hurts so bad when the relationship ends if sex has occured between the two people.
There is a belief out there, among people your age that everyone at your age is doing it...trust me, they aren't. It's just an illusion brought on by pop culture and the wishings of horny teenagers. Don't do it...not only is it not worth the pain and consequences that might result, but there are more important things that you should be worrying about. However, this doesn't mean that you should be worrying about what others think of you. They aren't thinking about you at all...they are too worried about what others think of them to think about others.
Totally agree CMU HistoryGirl; wise words (for real).
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]<b><font color=B22222>daria wrote: [/QUOTENAME]Totally agree CMU HistoryGirl; wise words (for real).[/QUOTE]
highly agreed. society has taught us to be little sluts as something good, rise above the pressure! treasure what you have, its very important.plus in the end, guys respect that, and most even think its cute if youre a virgin ;-)
plus its your private life, its called a private life for a reason. as someone said, if theres ANY pressure at all, hes not worth your time and effort. i hate seeing girls change their lives and everything for one boy that will more than likely leave you once he gets what he wants.
its up to you tho. just be safe about it, no aliens XD.
and hey you dissed my birthday, *waits for apology* :P
highly agreed. society has taught us to be little sluts as something good, rise above the pressure! treasure what you have, its very important.plus in the end, guys respect that, and most even think its cute if youre a virgin ;-)
plus its your private life, its called a private life for a reason. as someone said, if theres ANY pressure at all, hes not worth your time and effort. i hate seeing girls change their lives and everything for one boy that will more than likely leave you once he gets what he wants.
its up to you tho. just be safe about it, no aliens XD.
and hey you dissed my birthday, *waits for apology* :P
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]CMU HistoryGirl wrote: [/QUOTENAME] YOU ARE FAR TOO YOUNG to even be THINKING about this stuff. [/QUOTE]
I agree wiv everything but this... I mean- she'd be better off thinking of it than putting the thoughts into actions at that age.
Kimmithee: I don't think any bad can come from thinking about it. Just don't go get yerself knocked up. That can definetely wait. :0
I agree wiv everything but this... I mean- she'd be better off thinking of it than putting the thoughts into actions at that age.
Kimmithee: I don't think any bad can come from thinking about it. Just don't go get yerself knocked up. That can definetely wait. :0
I'm guessing that means he didn't get anything for Christmas or his birthday.
This is disgusting. It really is. I'm TURNING 15 in about 20 days....and I, personally, would NEVER even CONSIDER such things! What the hell?! Sex...at 15. That is young. FAR too young. And why the hell would you seek opinions about such a personal thing HERE...on THIS FORUM!? I seriously don't understand you. and I agree with EVERYTHING that CMUHistory Girl said. You're basically, kind of throwing your life away. I'm still shocked. Thoughts like this...shouldn't even be on your MIND right now. You seriously need to focus on school more...and don't listen to friends. Friends can be SO stupid at times. UGH.
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]<b><font color=666600>Music Man wrote: [/QUOTENAME]I'm guessing that means he didn't get anything for Christmas or his birthday.[/QUOTE]
LOL!
LOL!
if you ask me... i also think that you are waaaay too young. i mean your 15?! shouldnt you be worried about NORMAL teenage stuff?
[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]CMU HistoryGirl wrote: [/QUOTENAME]
YOU ARE FAR TOO YOUNG to even be THINKING about this stuff. [/QUOTE]
I think we all thought about it when we were 15. The only problem is that back then most of us didn't have anyone to do it with.
I'm going to have to agree with most girls here in this forum. 15 is indeed too soon especially if the relationship is still new.
Yet, if your boyfriend seems desperate, then buy him a bottle of KY and some porn.
YOU ARE FAR TOO YOUNG to even be THINKING about this stuff. [/QUOTE]
I think we all thought about it when we were 15. The only problem is that back then most of us didn't have anyone to do it with.
I'm going to have to agree with most girls here in this forum. 15 is indeed too soon especially if the relationship is still new.
Yet, if your boyfriend seems desperate, then buy him a bottle of KY and some porn.