Benn Kempster wrote:
The more civil the approach to Greg, the likelier he is to return. Although he does come across as a delicate little flower at times, its hardly surprising he's here so infrequently. I've been as guilty as anyone in the past at hauling him over coals, but, surely, even GB can't be responsible for the continual level of incompetence? Only the band and Jim Beach can be at fault here and have their decision-making questioned.
GB: Hi Benn K. Some your points intrigued me...
BK: The more civil the approach to Greg, the likelier he is to return....
GB: Yes this is generally true. But sometimes it's a simple question of being bored. Sometimes the tone and 'vibe' on QZ is so similar in so many threads - almost every other thread I read; the same tired predictable moaning or slagging someone off, that I find it too tedious to endure for more than a day or two at a time. It genuinely staggers me how so many of you put up with it over a sustained period. I feel like I need to rush out of the building for fresh air.
Yes, I'm more likely to respond to respectful people than to ignorant or rude persons that already have their opinion fixed about me before they even ask their question or make any point - which would be tedious for anyone, surely, not just me. I cannot be bothered with such people, no more than they can with me. That shouldn't be a surprise.
BK: Although he does come across as a delicate little flower at times, its hardly surprising he's here so infrequently....
GB: I can be sensitive sometimes, over-sensitive too, like most people. I generally have more shit aimed at me on QZ than most other people do, and that is predictable because generally there are a lot of resentful or envious or jealous or bitter (call it what you like) people out there that have no, or very little, voice at home or in their place of work, so come to this forum to vent at someone else... invariably me, if I'm around.
That's not an issue for me like it might have been a decade ago because I have a thick skin. I've said before: I give as good as I get. No more, no less. I don't take it seriously. It's only a Queen chat forum, it's not a life or death situation. It's not a problem if people want to blame me for everything put out in the name of Queen that they perceive as wrong or bad. As long as the people close to me know the real score; my family, friends, work colleagues, that's all that concerns me. And they do.
BK: I've been as guilty as anyone in the past at hauling him over coals...
GB: I never mind constructive comment from you or anyone, Benn. People are entitled to their opinion of course, as am I. I occasionally take exception when certain morons on QZ come at me with their clearly biassed views and with their opinions already made up, regardless of what I reply... so what's the point in me offering a reply in that scenario? No point. So invariably I don't bother. Would you? And then they get even more shitty and resentful and wonder why I bugger off.
Of course I bugger off from here a lot. That is the sensible thing to do. More of you should do so. This is generally not a happy or uplifting place to be. I would liken it sometimes to a dental surgery, in that you might learn something useful or necessary if you can stick around long enough, but generally you'd rather be some place else - where the sun is shining and the conversation stirs you, lifts your spirits - rather than smashes your spirit under foot.
There really are some negative people on QZ and I find their collective vibe oppressive from time to time - or just plain draining. I'd rather be out walking my dog. I don't get why you guys stay down here in the dark for so long. You need to get to a brighter place.
I'm always up for a constructive exchange of views, but only if people appreciate that, unlike them, I cannot talk about everything I'd like to. I have to be discrete and be guarded in what I can impart. Why should that be so hard for so many QZ-ers to fathom?
