Did your parents hit you when you were a kid?

If so, do you think you did deserve it for being a brat, or do you think they went too far by using physical punishment.

Occasionally. Yes, I deserved it.

UNTIL I BECAME STRONG AND KICKED THE SHIT OUT OF THEM BOTH. I BECAME A SUPER SAIYAN.



Cheers,
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My dad did. Did I deserve it? No. I don't believe in any physical punishment. Taking away their favorite stuff is much more effective, I think.

[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]Mr.Jingles wrote: [/QUOTENAME]If so, do you think you did deserve it for being a brat, or do you think they went too far by using physical punishment. [/QUOTE]

Yes they did although it was not that often. And yes I did deserve it.

I would hate to be a parent these days since it appears that you cant hit your kids who have stepped out of line (and I dont mean batter them to within an inch of their lives btw... thats waaaaaayyyyy too far) without some meddling do-gooder stepping in and reporting you.

I was smacked as a kid and not just by my parents - my friends parents and my teachers used to give me a clip round the head now and again! Consequently I have never been in trouble with the police, never done drugs, never broken into someone's house, never vandalised or stole cars and I never carry a weapon of any sort.

Compare that to the kids of today and I am glad that I grew up in the 60's.

I was spanked by my dad with a wooden paddle. My dad was a Marine and took no shit from either my brother or I. We knew what was expected of us and if we did not do that then we were spanked. Did it help me as a parent or as a contributing citizen, I can't say for sure. I think there are better ways of handling children who misbehave but all children are different. I have two of my own and yes, there are times where I would really like to give them a wack on the butt, but I calm down and talk to them about why they should not do what they have done.

I will admit I have spanked them both before though and I felt like shit after, that is when I knew spanking was not the answer...for me at least, to get my children to behave the proper way. I feel it is my responsibility to explain to them what is expected of them before any "accidents" happen. If they choose to disobey then they will be punished, but I won't physically hurt them. I'll take something away from them or sit them in time out.

Also, the age of the child needs to be taken in to consideration when a punishment is given. I can't sit Anthony in time out for the same time I would Cameron. Cameron is ten, Anthony is 5. Many times if I can see that they are getting ready to do something they shouldn't be doing, I'll let them experience the natural consequence of it, like say if they are riding their bike too fast and they crash. Sure they have a skinned up knee or elbow, but next time they will learn not to be so wreckless. Letting them learn some things on their own is good for them....after all, parents don't know shit anyway right? ;)

I'm only an uncle, not a parent, but I have to say there's a hundred better ways of controlling the little shits than smacking them.

And that's basically what you want to do, if you're hitting your kids; dumb them down and get them used to a life of being controlled and subordinate.
I hate to sound like Treasure Moment but that's the culture we've arrived at, and unfortunately one that we seem to be perpetuating....

Having said that, I think my parents should have beat me a bit when I was little. It's too late now; I'm 22, my life is a failure, and nobody can kick me in the arse to get me moving.

I was hit once or twice; a rare occourance as I was generally a well behaved child.

However I'd like to think that if I ever had kids, I would never hit them.

There's a difference between your kids being scared of you and respecting you. You shouldn't have to hit your kids for them to respect you.

I was never hit by my parents as a child. Nor did I ever hit my son, who is now 21. I believe there are more effective forms of punishment.

My parents used to hit me when i was a child, sometimes they slapped me, sometimes hit me with a belt. It was all because I was a very stubborn child and talked back. Probably they got irritated. But I never did anything wrong! Now I think they shouldn`t have done it, they should have tried to talk to me, now I understand I would have liked that.

[QUOTE][QUOTENAME]April wrote: [/QUOTENAME]My parents used to hit me when i was a child, sometimes they slapped me, sometimes hit me with a belt.[/QUOTE]

That is exactly what my dad would do. Luckily, my mom kept him from doing it most of the time, though.

Yep, I got spankings. When I became a teen, sometimes it was a slap across the head. When I was around 18 or 19, I was shoved down. But it never worked for me, as I'd get violent back, and never do as I was told. Now I'm taller (but thinner) than my Dad, and can knock him down and have. But I don't believe in violence towards kids. Gavyn will never be spanked, and I spoil him. I am going to raise him the opposite way that my Dad raised me, to see how it turns out. I have a feeling he'll be better.

It's like this... You mis-tread a dog, and the dog gets angry and violent. You treat a dog nicely, and the dog is friendly.

Yes, it was also my dad who did it. My mother admired my dad so much that she never interfered. He is considered to be the utmost authority and the "last-instance knowledge" in the family.

Never hit your (future) children!

see my later post...